Tuesday, August 28, 2012

How to Avoid Looking Nervous

NervousnessHave you ever felt nervous and hoped it didn't show? If so, this is the article for you. Recognizing what you do when you're nervous and how to stop doing it is the key.  

Steps:

  1. If your case is severe, begin with people you know.
  2. Before you begin to speak, pause for a moment and consciously breathe in and exhale.
  3. Endeavor to relax your entire body. Instead of thinking about your nervousness, concentrate on the other person, their likes and dislikes. Ask viewpoint questions of them such as, what do you think? or how do you feel about?... This will help you to concentrate on them rather than yourself and to relate to them in a calm and dignified manner.
  4. Be aware of your appearance. Your poise, or lack of it, is shown by your physical bearing and the way that you use your hands. Hands clasped behind the back, held rigidly at the sides, or hands repeatedly in and out of pockets, buttoning and unbuttoning the jacket, aimlessly moving to the cheek, the nose, the eyeglasses; hands toying with a watch, a pencil, a ring, all of these demonstrate a lack of poise. With conscious effort these manifestations of nervousness can be controlled.
  5. Work on just one at a time. Identify the problem, and consider in advance what you need to do to prevent it. If you make that effort, you will give evidence of poise in your physical bearing.
  6. If you are talking to someone, look at them, don't look at your shoes or that nice picture, look at them. There doesn't have to be eye contact, just look in their direction.
  7. Know that the average person is made up of 70% water. Regardless of who we are speaking with, from the CEO of the company to the janitor, they are nothing more than a large water bag. We all put our pants and shoes on the same way no matter who we are.


Tips

  • Plan ahead when you know you are doing something that makes you nervous. Know it is going to happen so you can counter it.
  • Don't think too much about not looking nervous, it could cause a mess up and that would be even worse.
  • Try to look casual whenever nervous, so as to not give your nervousness away.
  • Don't wring your hands or play with your hair. Some people do these things without even realizing it.

Warnings

  • Do not expect all feelings of nervousness to disappear. You may still feel nervous, but others may not be aware of it at all.

 

Sunday, August 12, 2012


Sunday, July 1, 2012

How to Stop Being Nervous

Being nervous is human nature on many issues. We all have a sense of nervousness and anxiety before extremely important events of our lives. This is natural, though unpleasant. In the following article, I hope to really help you learn how to stop being nervous and to calm down.

Instructions:

1.  The first thing you must do is go to an area that is quiet, where you can do some thinking.

2. Analyze what you are nervous about. Think about what you can do about a certain situation to not be so nervous about it any more. What can you do? Most likely, the answer is nothing. There is not one single thing that will change the situation that is making your nervous. This realization should help bring you calmness. Especially in situations where you are worried about somebody or some event outside of your control.
 
3. If you are nervous about a task that must be completed, think about how much you have prepared for this task. Think of all that you have done and learned to be where you are. Think of the training, studying and/or work involved to be where you are at. Reflect back on these things. Understand that it was your effort that will help you in the task ahead, not your worrying.
 
4. Get comfortable, relax, have a soothing food to eat, take a bath, and do not think of the event ahead, rather spend the time to calmly reflect on how hard you have worked.
 
5. Remember not to worry about tomorrow, because each day has enough problems of its own.

Tips & Warnings:

  • St. John's wort is a natural supplement that helps with anxiety, nervousness, and depression.