Have you ever felt nervous
and hoped it didn't show? If so, this is the article for you.
Recognizing what you do when you're nervous and how to stop doing it is
the key.
Steps:
If your case is severe, begin with people you know.
Before you begin to speak, pause for a moment and consciously breathe in and exhale.
Endeavor to relax your entire body.
Instead of thinking about your nervousness, concentrate on the other
person, their likes and dislikes. Ask viewpoint questions of them such
as, what do you think? or how do you feel about?... This will help you
to concentrate on them rather than yourself and to relate to them in a
calm and dignified manner.
Be aware of your appearance. Your poise,
or lack of it, is shown by your physical bearing and the way that you
use your hands. Hands clasped behind the back, held rigidly at the
sides, or hands repeatedly in and out of pockets, buttoning and
unbuttoning the jacket, aimlessly moving to the cheek, the nose, the
eyeglasses; hands toying with a watch, a pencil, a ring, all of these
demonstrate a lack of poise. With conscious effort these manifestations
of nervousness can be controlled.
Work on just one at a time. Identify the problem,
and consider in advance what you need to do to prevent it. If you make
that effort, you will give evidence of poise in your physical bearing.
If you are talking to someone, look at them, don't look at your shoes or that nice picture, look at them. There doesn't have to be eye contact, just look in their direction.
Know that the average person is made up of 70% water.
Regardless of who we are speaking with, from the CEO of the company to
the janitor, they are nothing more than a large water bag. We all put
our pants and shoes on the same way no matter who we are.
Tips
Plan ahead when you know you are doing something that makes you nervous. Know it is going to happen so you can counter it.
Don't think too much about not looking nervous, it could cause a mess up and that would be even worse.
Try to look casual whenever nervous, so as to not give your nervousness away.
Don't wring your hands or play with your hair. Some people do these things without even realizing it.
Warnings
Do not expect all feelings of nervousness to disappear. You may still feel nervous, but others may not be aware of it at all.
Sunday, August 12, 2012
9 Tips To STOP Getting Nervous Around GIRLS
1. Find the CORE ISSUE.
Most guys completely miss that, and try to fix their nervousness by treating their surface symptoms. For example, they will see a girl they like, think of approaching, take the first step, and feel nervousness.
So they will try to clamp down on the nervousness. Suppress it. Or they just try to ignore it.
Needless to say, it doesn’t usually work well.
2. Go DEEPER.
The most important thing here is to work out what you’re actually choosing.
It’s actually something much deeper.
Now, according to most seduction community literature, you should be learning how to stop getting nervous around girls in conjunction with a myriad of other problems…
So, you should learn some body language tips so that you don’t “lean in” and don’t move your hands too much…
You should learn some tapping techniques to eradicate the chest tightness.
You should learn some openers to conceal the blank mind. And some proven DHV routines to stop your mindless mutterings.
And some Alpha male mindsets to stop supplicating.
3. Is there a FASTER and EASIER way?
What if there was a simple way to take care of ALL of those – at the
same time? (yeah, and to stop getting nervous around girls, as well).
I know it sounds like a little to good to be true. But think about this…
3. Your Nervousness Is Situational.
Do you get nervous around your best mates? Do you get nervous
watching TV with your family? Do you get a tightness in your chest in a
movie cinema with your friends?
How often do you experience anxiety while eating at your favourite restaurant?
Yes, you probably do feel more comfortable in those “low pressure”
places and that allows you to have a completely different experience of
the world.
But why? And how?
4. Getting Into STATE.
So I want you to think back to one of your most enjoyable nights out,
ever. It may have been a night out with the boys getting drunk and
rowdy.
It may have been since you joined the seduction community community, picking up girls, it might have just been laughing with a beautiful woman.
It doesn’t matter. All that matters is that it was a night that was fun and very fulfilling.
So now that you’re there, I want you to pay attention to one particular thing…
5. Your FOCUS.
Were you focusing on the external world – like what people are doing, what that mean, sand what that means about you?
Or were you focused on the internal world – on how you feel and what you desire to do?
And how did that focus allow you to act?
Did you check your actions, hiding the real you away because you were concerned about what other people think?
Or did you freely follow your desires – not because you thought
everyone liked you, but simply because you were not thinking about what
other people think?
And how did you feel because of the actions you take that come from
the focus you have? Did you feel caged, trapped, scared and nervous?
Or did you feel happy, joyous, free, and alive?
6. Were You NERVOUS??
On those nights, did you need body language tips, openers, routines, DHV’s and body tapping to help you stop getting nervous?
Or was there just nothing to worry about?
Now, I want you to run through the same questions over again, but this time for a night out where you didn’t enjoy yourself.
7. Imagine Your Worst Night Ever.
Go on, actually do it.
It’s important that you give it a shot because it’s the one thing that’s going to help you stop getting nervous around girls.
So what do you think this all means? What’s the key element here?
8. Internal Focus.
This is where most seduction community “gurus” will say, “It can’t be that easy!” Well, I’m pretty sure it can’t be as hard as most of those gurus make it.
The structures, the routines, the openers, attraction switches, the DHV’s negs, more, more, more, more!!!
How come when you’re in state, you don’t need to learn any of this?
Have you ever wondered why picking up is so much easier when you just go
out to have fun?
Now, the fun part. This is where we dig deep.
Whilst it can help you stop getting nervous around girls, it does require that you understand what’s going on underneath.
9. Fix YourInner Game.
You’re trying to get girls attracted to you for a reason. And, as a result you’re getting nervous around girls for a reason.
Once you understand what that reason is, everything will change. (Hint: it has something to do with inner game).
Sunday, July 1, 2012
How to Stop Being Nervous
Being nervous is human nature on many issues. We all have a sense of
nervousness and anxiety before extremely important events of our lives.
This is natural, though unpleasant. In the following article, I hope
to really help you learn how to stop being nervous and to calm down.
Instructions:
1. The first thing you must do is go to an area that is quiet, where you can do some thinking.
2. Analyze what you are nervous about. Think about what you
can do about a certain situation to not be so nervous about it any more.
What can you do? Most likely, the answer is nothing. There is not
one single thing that will change the situation that is making your
nervous. This realization should help bring you calmness. Especially
in situations where you are worried about somebody or some event outside
of your control.
3. If you are nervous about a task that must be completed,
think about how much you have prepared for this task. Think of all that
you have done and learned to be where you are. Think of the training,
studying and/or work involved to be where you are at. Reflect back on
these things. Understand that it was your effort that will help you in
the task ahead, not your worrying.
4. Get comfortable, relax, have a soothing food to eat, take a
bath, and do not think of the event ahead, rather spend the time to
calmly reflect on how hard you have worked.
5. Remember not to worry about tomorrow, because each day has enough problems of its own.
Tips & Warnings:
St. John's wort is a natural supplement that helps with anxiety, nervousness, and depression.